Editor: Tristan Taormino
Authors: Illustrator: Katie Diamond
Tristan Taormino, Lolita Wolf, Laura Antoniou, Sarah Sloane, Midori, Hardy Haberman, Barbara Carrellas, FifthAngel, Felice Shays, Patrick Califia, Mollena Williams, Lee Harrington, Madison Young, Ignacio Rivera aka Papi Coxx, Jack Rinella, Edge
Length: 447 pages
Size: Trade Paperback
Cleis Press $19.95
There are two sections of the book. The first is about skills and techniques while the second is all fantasies and philosophies. Before that is Tristan Taormino's Introduction. Read it. Trust me one this. Especially if you aren't comfortable with all the different BDSM terms. The book makes a great buffet to just read what catches your interest, but Tristan Taormino outlines all the terms that are used in the rest of the book and gives some great basic information.
Several chapters also include very helpful illustrations by Kate Diamond that perfectly help illustrate the things that the authors are trying to explain. The illustrations are simple and unintimidating. They do include nudity, but due to the style, it isn't super erotic, but instead cartoony enough that you focus on what it is trying to show you.
I will admit that there were chapters about things that I am just not into, but in the name of science, I did read them, and on a purely logical level, I actually enjoyed it because I have a better understanding of that type of thing now. It's still not erotic or interesting to me to pursue, but I feel like I am in a better place to think about it. I feel like A Romp on the Wild Side by Lee Harrington gave me a much stronger foundation of understanding the allure of animal play. Even to the point that I could see myself possibly being a human owner or handler should I have a partner interested in animal play. Age Play by Ignacio Rivera aka Papi Coxx opened up my thought of what age play can be. To be honest, it's not something I ever really see myself engaging in, but I lost some of my prejudice against it.
The chapters I did love were honestly ones that really well outlined things I am into or were written by authors that I am a fan of, but I can't help but love what I love. The one's that really stood out for me were, How To Train Your Sex Slave by Laura Antoniou, A Little Cock and Ball Play by Hardy Haberman, Submissive: A Personal Manifesto by Madison Young, and Digging in the Dirt: The Lure of Taboo Role Play by Mollena Williams.
Each of these stood out to me for completely different reasons. How To Train Your Sex Slave was perfect for me as a Top. It felt like the perfect introduction to training while still offering advice in a way that kept the whole thing sexy. Laura Antoniou left a lot of room in her advice for adding your own flair while still pointing out the ways to maintain this dynamic over the long haul. A Little Cock and Ball Play gave fantastic advice while keeping the essay really sexy. The essay was set up with an erotic scenario with good solid advice to keep things safe. I was rather sad when it ended. Submissive: A Personal Manifesto beautifully dispelled the myths that submission isn't feminist and submissives are weaker people. Digging in the Dirt: The Lure of Taboo Role Play beautifully embraced the darker and sometimes more violent fantasies that people, like me, have. At the same time, Mollena walks the reader through the things to think about if bringing them to light is something that you want to try and how to handle all possible outcomes with that.
All of that being said, all of the essays in this collection are amazing. They all stand out and none of them felt weak compared to the others. I applaud Tristan Taormino for putting this collection together. I would love to see a sequel because there is always more to write about when it comes to kink. The Ultimate Guide to Kink is absolutely a treasured part of guides to kink collection, and one that I am absolutely happy to endorse.